simply give: 10 reasons we are still married II

in case you missed my previous post,

my first five reasons for still being married were:

1~we pray together

2~we kiss

3~we go to bed together

4~we date

5~we find ways to make our marriage better

here are the next five:

6~we talk

i think one of the most important things in a marriage is communication, aka talking! my hubby will be the first to say, "sometimes men just don't get it liv, we need to be told stuff. we don't always know whats going on with you" look at these two quotes from a couple, this is from our marriage class.....

from the husband:

"i thought i was doing great as a husband....i would of said on a scale from 1-10, my marriage is probably a 10. if not a 10, its a 9.8, and i guarantee my wife would agree"

~dave wilson

from the wife:

" and i would of said, we are a 1.0 ,maybe a 0.5, and i think he was totally clueless ...which made me even more angry, because i'm thinking, how do you not know how bad we are doing?"

~ann wilson

this is a prime example of what happens when you don't talk about things! you expect your husband to know things aren't the greateat and he thinks everything is great! kinda when i wrote in my first post and sat down and talked to shawn and said "i am just not happy" and he responded by saying "how can you not be happy?" as if he had no clue! when you let stuff go on and on like this, it doesn't turn out good! that's why you need to talk about the changes you need to make and ACTUALLY DO THEM!

7~we say i love you

plain and simple, even if we know you love us, we like to be told! and more than once a day is always nice ;)

sometimes we carve the words "i love you" in random things

JK....this was a one time deal ;)

8~we forgive

if one of us does something stupid, usually shawn, (haha just kidding hunny) we will go to each other and say "i'm so sorry i treated you like that, or that i was in a bad mood, will you please forgive me?" (the bad mood part is me most times,haha) then we go on with our evening and don't let it ruin our night! now i know that people have deeper and bigger issues then just being in a bad mood, but the most important thing is if you really don't know how can forgive them for something, talk to someone about what you can do, to get over it,and move on from the situation. unforgivenss will ruin your marriage!

9~we talk about money

so many couples fight about money! what to do with the tax money, what to do with the extra bonus you get. shawn and i have a little policy, if we want to purchase something over a certain amount, we will just run it by each other. i'm not saying to ask for every penny you spend, but ,make sure you agree on those bigger purchases!

10~we spend weekends together

oh, how i love having the WHOLE weekend off from all responsibilities but being a wife! we are in the process of planning another weekend away! we will usually just go to columbus, or crocker park for a few days. we went to florida for a week minus the babes...well, actually minus hunter because i was preggo with carter, and it was so nice ! it is so refreshing to have the time to do whatever you want! our biggest decision is what place to go out to eat! this is a must for all couples to sneak away and rekindle your love without any interruptions! bow chicka bow wow! ;)

us at crocker park this year

an extra little reason:

WE HAVE FUN!

marriage should be fun! kiss, dance in the kitchen, be silly, be spontaneous, hold hands, hide behind the bathroom door at midnight and scare your spouse (actually, maybe don't do that, i am laughing out loud right now thinking about when i did that to shawn! he jumped back and said "what in the world is wrong with you? why would you do that?" haha then we both started cracking up!